LAME EXCUSES OF WIVES

LAME EXCUSES OF WIVES WILL NOT BE ACCEPTABLE
In a lengthy Hadith Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) described a scene in the Divine Court on the Day of Qiyaamah. A woman who will be ushered into the Divine Presence, will be asked about her neglect of Salaat (and also about her other violations of the Shariah). This woman will say in her defense that her obligations to her husband and children, and her
household duties did no permit her the time to regularly perform Salaat. She will also present the excuse of her husband’s foul temper which had instilled fear in her. She was therefore constrained to be at his beck and call, hence she was unable to fulfil her Deeni obligations. Allah Ta’ala will then command that Hadhrat Aasiyyah (rahmatullah alayha) be ushered into His Presence. It will then be said to the woman. “Was your husband a greater oppressor and worse than her husband, Fir’oun?” The woman will reply: “O Allah! No one was a greater oppressor and more evil than Fir’oun.” It will then be said to this woman: “Despite Aasiyyah having been the wife of such a cruel and evil tyrant, she was never neglectful of her ibaadat nor forgetful for a moment of Allah’s remembrance. If the oppression of any husband could have prevented any wife from Salaat and her Deeni obligations, then most certainly, Aasiyyah would have been prevented. O
woman! The excuse of your husband is baseless. You, of your own accord was neglectful of the Deen. You did not fear My punishment, hence you disobeyed My commands, and rebelled against the teachings of My Rasool. Today you shall taste of My chastisement.” Allah, Rabbul Aalameen will then command the Angels to cast her into Jahannum. May Allah Ta’ala save us from such disaster.

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Children and Hijaab

5 YEAR OLD GIRL PLAYING WITH BOYS

Q. My wife does not allow our 5 year old daughter to play with family boys from above four years. Is she not too strict in imposing purdah on the small girl?

A. Even three year old girls and boys should not play together. Girls should play with only girls. Brothers and sisters may play. But it is not permissible for a five year old girl to play with boys even if they are 4 or 5 years old. The parents who allow their little daughters to play with boys or boys with girls, are opening an avenue of fitnah. Your wife has better understanding than you despite you being the male. She is not ‘too strict’. You should view the matter from the Shariat ’s angle, not from your customary lifestyle.

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Breastfeeding Improves IQ

A study published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition shows that breastfed infants tested 5.2 IQ points higher than formula fed infants, for a comprehensive study involving 11 different studies and over 7000 children.

The study was published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition and was performed by University of Kentucky nutritionist James Anderson.

“Our study confirms that breast-feeding is accompanied by about a five-points higher IQ than in bottle-fed infants,” Anderson said.

Within that increase, Anderson and associates were able to separate the benefits from mother-infant bonding from the purely nutritional benefits of human milk.

“Our best estimates are that maternal bonding and the decision to breast-feed account for about 40 percent of that increase, but that 60 percent — 3.2 points — are related to the actual nutritional value of the breast milk,” he said.

The link between breast-feeding and brain development has been well established in recent years, but the reasons for it remain controversial. Some researchers believe the link is based on the fact that well-educated, wealthier women breast-feed far more than poor and less educated women. Consequently, breast-fed children will be found to test better for all the reasons that wealthier children from high social classes test better on standardized tests.  But others believe there are chemicals in breast milk that encourage brain development, and that those chemicals are now absent in formula. In particular, extensive research is under way into the effects of several Omega-3 fatty acids – docosahexaenoic acid (DHA) and arachidonic acid (AA) – that are prevalent in breast milk but absent in infant formula.

Therefore Anderson’s group weighed and subtracted 15 factors from their study, such as maternal smoking and education, birth weight, birth order and family income.  After all these factors were removed, the researchers still found that breast-fed babies tested 3.1 IQ points higher than formula-fed babies!

Among the rights of infants is that the mother breast-feeds her baby. Breast-feeding her baby is incumbent. It is not permissible for a mother to deny her baby this Allah-given right without a valid reason. Bottle-feeding does not compensate for this violation of the baby’s haqq. Now we see from the above article the benefits of following Allah’s commands. There is Divine Wisdom in all of the commandments of Allah. It is just for us to follow and obey

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